A common type of unrealistic expectation is perfectionism. It is expecting that you will be perfect at every step of the way, that you will perform flawlessly, that you will never skip a day or make mistakes. When you think like that, you will treat many of your results as failure, engage in “not good …
Holding on to unrealistic expectations guarantees emotional friction and disappointment. These things make you feel like giving up, which makes perseverance difficult. One common type of unrealistic expectation is the false hope syndrome. It is expecting that the path to your goal will be easy, that your aspiration will be fulfilled quickly, and that obstacles …
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act but a habit. —Aristotle Perseverance is the ability to continue on the journey regardless of the challenges and obstacles on the way. It is to rise up every time we fall, with renewed commitment and enthusiasm. It is to pursue our goals with …
We have a deeply ingrained desire for comfort, but growth only happens when we can accept physical and/or emotional discomfort. This can be done forcefully (through willpower) or mindfully (through acceptance). The mindful way is to open your heart to the experience of discomfort, by using the ROAR Method. All pains and discomforts, be they …
At times, self-discipline can feel like hard emotional labor. In pursuing an ideal, you may need to let go of things that you like and accept some physical or emotional discomfort. Be prepared. Some sacrifice will almost always be required. You only develop muscles by going through effort, sweat, and pain. You only write a …
To address temptations, distractions and similar challenges, you can use the Shift Your Focus technique to reframe how you think about them. Or you can use the Shift Your Perception technique and change how you feel about them. Yes, you can change how you feel about something—through self-talk and how you focus your attention. Stoics …
To address temptations, distractions and similar challenges, you can use the Shift Your Focus technique to reframe how you think about them. Or you can use the Shift Your Perception technique and change how you feel about them. Yes, you can change how you feel about something—through self-talk and how you focus your attention. Stoics …
To address temptations and similar challenges, the Shift Your Focus technique reframes your thinking from short-term to long-term, so exercising your willpower becomes easier. How? Let’s explore an example. It’s time for your run, and you feel a strong temptation toward ice cream and Netflix instead. Then you remember the PAW Method! Pause: You pause …
Linked lessons: Step 1, Step 2. To live in harmony with your goals, you sometimes need to apply willpower. But you cannot use your willpower without awareness, and you cannot be aware if you are too busy to pause. Therefore, you need to pause, then be aware, then apply your willpower. This is what I …
To live in harmony with your goals, you sometimes need to apply willpower. But you cannot use your willpower unless you first are aware, and you cannot be aware if you are too busy or living on autopilot without any pause. Therefore, you need to pause (Step 1), then be aware (Step 2), then apply …
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